Uffda.... could write a book, as could others here. Lots of thoughts but no time right now to lay them out. So I'll just put a few points in now.
AAA hockey is the best worst undetermined decision we ever made.
Is it worth it... maybe. Does AAA help or is it a money grab.... Yes. It is that easy and complicated of a question and answer.
I'd say I may have been exactly where you are now at a time in the past.
Everything you think you know is completely wrong. You either have to listen to rational advice or pay dearly to enroll in the class of 1st Gen Hockey Dad 101.
Are they a dominating talent among their regional (Midwest) aged peers? Yes?
-Do you live west of Casselton? Yes? Then AAA is mandatory until they can leave for a legit program.
-East of Casselton, you have options and there will be good advice along the way. Enjoy the ride. And try to avoid the leeches trying to drain your bank accounts, Jr hockey and maybe college is a legit goal.
If you can't actually say they are a dominating talent among their regional (midwest) aged peers. Play for fun and enjoy any AAA teams or tourneys you want, High school hockey should be your goal. If they become an uber talent along the way there will be time to make many more decisions, and even more sleezier scumbag leeches trying to drain every last penny.
Before you do anything else have someone else talk to your kids and find out what they actually want to do. They won't give you an honest or unbiased answer, they'll tell you what they think you want to hear