how is that homophobia? Homophobia is "irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuality or homosexuals". Meaning a word in a different way is not homophobia. Just because someone disagrees with you does not make them homophobic.
Don't get me wrong, I am all about letting someone know that you do not appreciate their use of words, but when they explain that they did not mean it then you can't call them homophobic. You let sioux_rube know that you did not appreciate their use of the words, they explained...End of Story.
Moving back on topic, Come out and Help this weekend people! Even if it does not completely work, the boys really do like that you try.