As the proud father of a daughter and husband to my wife I can see both sides of the story and can see how this might offend someone. Trust me words have consquences and I have POed the head female of the house hold by saying things that might be percieved as stupid/insensitive or something else. That doesn't make me hyper sensitive, or a bravo male, because I its not going to stop me killing Green Head Mallards or roosters in the fall. If you put it out there people might take it both ways.
Personally, I would blame the fight on players getting after it not on their gender. I have seen rough play from both genders.